It is essential for children to comprehend and articulate their emotions regarding divorce or separation. Often, children find it easier to express their feelings through drawing rather than words, making Art Therapy a highly effective tool for young ones. The confusing emotions surrounding divorce can lead to stress for many children. Some may internalise their feelings, which could manifest as headaches, stomach aches, or behavioural issues. A child's thoughts significantly influence their perception of events. Address any misconceptions gently and at the right moment. Please support them in learning how to cope with change and loss, while also fostering trust and respect for important role models in their lives. If you find it challenging to communicate with your children or co-parent with your ex-partner, I am here to assist you. Many children harbour feelings of guilt regarding their parents' separation, believing that they are no longer loved. Having an impartial adult to confide in can greatly facilitate the healing process. While becoming a single parent may not have been the original plan, it is crucial to focus on being the best parent possible. Always prioritise what is in the best interest of your child. Children thrive when they feel loved by both parents. Regardless of adult disagreements, it's important to set them aside for the children's sake and lead by example. Remember, children are remarkably perceptive and often sense tensions and emotions, even if not openly discussed. Encouraging open and honest communication, while keeping discussions age-appropriate, can nurture a sense of security and understanding. Establishing routines and maintaining consistency in their lives can also provide stability during times of change. In addition to art, other creative outlets such as music, play, and storytelling can serve as powerful tools for children to explore and express their emotions. Encouraging participation in these activities can help them process their feelings constructively. It's equally vital to prioritise your own emotional well-being. Children often look to their parents for guidance, and by modelling healthy coping strategies, you can teach them resilience. Seeking support from friends, family, or professionals can offer you the strength and perspective necessary to navigate this challenging period. Ultimately, reminding your children that both parents love them unconditionally, regardless of the circumstances, can reinforce their sense of security and belonging. By collaborating as co-parents and putting your children's needs first, you can create a nurturing environment that supports their growth and happiness.
Allowing yourself time to mourn the loss is crucial... I know, because I've been through it!
Going through a divorce is undoubtedly one of the most challenging experiences in life. The emotional turmoil can be all-consuming, and when you're asked to project your future earnings as part of the divorce settlement, it can feel like an impossible task. If you’ve stepped away from your career to support your family, this question can indeed make your blood run cold…where do you even begin? Understanding the Challenge For those currently employed, projecting future earnings might be straightforward. However, if you've taken a break from your career to focus on family, the prospect of reentering the workforce can be daunting. The stress of divorce is immediate, and thinking about starting work again might be the last thing on your mind. Your confidence may have waned, and the thought of trying to write a CV or attending an interview can be overwhelming. Additionally, if you've started the menopause journey, you may feel that your clarity, memory, and energy are not what they used to be. Remember, you are not alone in feeling this way. The fear you're experiencing is valid, but it's crucial to try not to let it consume your every waking hour. Building a Support System Rebuilding your life takes time, and having a strong support network while you are going through your divorce is vital. Here are some key members of your support team: Legal Team: An excellent legal team will work to secure the best possible deal for your future. Make sure you choose wisely! Independent Financial Adviser (IFA): A knowledgeable IFA can help you understand your financial situation, forecast future earnings, and protect your financial future. Divorce Coach: A divorce coach guides you through the emotional aspects of divorce, helping you manage stress, dial down your emotions, clearing your mind of anxiety to get clarity and focus, communicate effectively with your children, overcome heartbreak and face new, anxiety-inducing situations with confidence. Steps to Rebuild Your Confidence Take it One Step at a Time: Don’t rush yourself. Allow time for healing and adjustment. Career Advice: Having had over 20 years of recruitment experience, I can support and give guidance on different careers to explore and job opportunities to consider, I will support you to write an outstanding CV, and fully prepare you for interviews. Focus on Self-Care: You must always prioritise your emotional well-being. Engaging in activities that help you relax and recharge. Challenge Limiting Beliefs: I will support through your whole journey and help you to overcome any self-doubts that you may have which are holding you back. Stay Positive: Try to maintain a positive outlook and focus on the possibilities that lie ahead. Remember, rebuilding after a divorce is a journey, and you're not alone. With the right support and resources, you can confidently face the future and discover new opportunities.